Acceptance of part-time and other alternative work schedules has a long way to go. It’s a bit depressing.

But, I took some solace when I heard that baseball great Cal Ripken, Jr is in talks with his former team the Baltimore Orioles about rejoining the team in the front office. The news report said that Ripken was only interested in working part-time until his son graduates from high school. Ripken sounds comfortable and confident in his priorities as he outlines how much energy he can devote to work given his commitment to his family (see clip below).

When was the last time you heard a famous father publicly say he would only work part-time? Prominent men regularly cite “family reasons” as they make job changes, but the assumption is they’re moving to a less demanding full-time job.

I realize the public declaration of one (albeit legendary) man will not change today’s workforce culture and the resistance to part-time work. However, it’s a step in the right direction! I tip my cap to Ripken and his willingness to seek ways to balance his personal and professional lives.

Have you Wise Women seen any other signs (promising or otherwise) of a shift in attitude toward part-time work?

According to the Associated Press report on ESPN:

BALTIMORE — Cal Ripken Jr. is exploring the possibility of joining the Baltimore Orioles as a part-time adviser, which would ease his transition into a permanent position after his son graduates high school in 2012.

Ripken, who turns 50 next month, has been meeting on a regular basis with Orioles owner Peter Angelos and president of baseball operations Andy MacPhail. The conversations have centered on finding the Hall of Fame infielder a position in the front office on the team he played for throughout his 21-year career.

Should they come up with a plan that would allow Ripken to remain dedicated to his family while serving the Orioles, he would be willing to get back in the game before his son, Ryan, graduates from Gilman School.

“If something does take shape, then I’ll start to consider it. And I’ll be honest enough to say this is the amount of time I have and these are the commitments that I have elsewhere,” Ripken said in an interview with The Associated Press.

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But, then Mimi shared an exercise they went through that contained a five-carat gem of wisdom.

When someone voices an opinion that is counter to yours – even if you find that position offensive and indefensible – ask that person to tell you his or her story. “Tell me what’s happened in your life that’s made you reach that conclusion.”

Ask with genuine curiosity. Seek the personal story behind the belief. Understand and respect the person, if not the opinion. Identify any common ground you share.

Gosh, can it be that easy? I always tense up when I run up against opposing viewpoints (particularly political stances). Then I do a good job of avoiding the opinionated elephant in the room and scramble to find something we can both agree upon. (Am I a people-pleaser or what?) And then I make a mental note to avoid this topic/person in the future.

So, I love this “Tell me your story” approach. I’ll let you know when I have the chance to use it.

How do you handle conflicting viewpoints?

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I rarely receive ‘em.

I infrequently read ‘em.

What are “they”? Those emails forwarded by friends and family ranting about the political hot potato of the day.

For the few I do open up (sometimes inadvertently), I have yet to read a cogent argument that’s convinced me to change my position on that particular issue.

Last week I received a forwarded email about the upcoming pro-life Super Bowl ad featuring football star Tim Tebow and his mother. Reportedly, the spot tells the story of how Mrs. Tebow, pregnant with Tim, came down with a tropical ailment while living in the Philippines; the doctors then told her the pregnancy had become life-threatening. Obviously, Mrs. Tebow chose to still have the baby, her son Tim; the ad celebrates that choice.

The ad (and the fact that CBS entered uncharted ground by agreeing to ad an “issue” ad during the Super Bowl) have generated a passionate response, eclipsing interest in the actual game. (Go, Saints!) The email I received last week is case in point. Here’s an excerpt:

“I found out that CBS has cleared the way to subject nearly 100 million people to Focus on the Family’s extrema agenda by agreeing to air its new pro-life ad during the Super Bowl.

Focus on the Family has an unmistakable anti-choice, anti-birth control, anti-sex-education, anti-gay agenda. If that isn’t bad enough, its views on women are just plain insulting and dangerous. For example, its web site urges women facing unintended pregnancy to seek “wise advice” because “the hormones and extreme emotions of pregnancy make reasonable decisions more difficult.” Yeah, there is no way you can make this up.”

This dire email from NARAL was forwarded to me by my cousin, a bright guy with a big heart and a wicked sense or humor. I scrolled to the end of the message expecting a wry comment from him about the hyperbolic language in the email. Nope. Just a quick disclaimer: “I don’t usually send this type of stuff, and my apologies if this is not something you want to receive.” (Which is true, he doesn’t.)

The form email went on to urge me to not “sit by while CBS lets Focus on the Family place a political ad during the Super Bowl” and sign an online petition in protest.

Actually, the urge I felt was NOT to leap into cyber action. I wanted to scream in frustration. It drives me bonkers that the original email author believes that a position framed in polarizing and demonizing language will convince me – and others – to change positions on this deeply personal issue.

The Washington Post sports writer Sally Jenkin’s article, “Tebow’s Super Bowl ad isn’t intolerant; its critics are” captured my sentiment about the brouhaha:

“CBS owns its broadcast and can run whatever advertising it wants, and Tebow has a right to express his beliefs publicly. Just as I have the right to reject or accept them after listening — or think a little more deeply about the issues.”

I didn’t reply to the forwarded email. (Add that to the list – I never respond to ‘em.) But, it definitely pushed a button for me.

Wise Women, how do you handle it when you receive a forwarded email with a viewpoint (or hyperbolic language) that you find problematic? Any reaction to the back-and-forth about this year’s Super Bowl ads? And, perhaps most pertinent to this first weekend in February, who else is joining me in rooting for the Saints?

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All that aside, I know she’s had a tough road to deal with since the election.  It will be very interesting to see what becomes of her over the next couple of years.  If she’s smart, she’ll enjoy life and family, and make lots of money giving speeches and writing a book.  However, I do think she seems to enjoy the spotlight – and despite the thinking that she’s ruined her chances for higher office given her resignation – I will be amazed if she doesn’t show up on the political scene again.

What are your thoughts? Is she done with politics or not?

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One thing I do have going for me is that my children do like flavor and spice.  Following is a recipe that my children love – and the nice thing is, it can be the one and only on the dinner plate if you are too tired to serve anything else.  Also note, if you decide to pull some of the ingredients out – like the mushrooms or bean sprouts, it still works.  And it’s easy to prepare – not more than 10 minutes of prep and 10 minutes to cook.  So maybe this can offer up a little change of pace:

Moo-Shu Pork (4 servings)

1 T soy sauce
2 tsp cornstarch
5 tsp vegetable oil, divided
8 oz lean, boneless pork loin, cut into 1/4″ thick strips
1 tsp butter
2 large eggs, beaten
1 small red pepper, thinly sliced
1 pkg (8oz) sliced mushrooms
3 green onions, chopped
3 garlic cloves, finely chopped
1 T grated ginger
2 cups of bean sprouts
1/4 cups of chicken broth
8 small flour tortillas
1/4 cup hoisin sauce

1.  In medium bowl, combine soy sauce, cornstarch, 1 tsp oil, and pork strips.  Marinate 5 minutes.  Meanwhile, in small nonstick skillet, heat butter over medium high heat.  Add eggs; scramble until cooked but not dry.  Transfer to large bowl and set aside.

2.  In large nonstick skillet, heat 2 tsp oil over high heat.  Add pork and cook, stirring, until browned about 2 minutes.  Transfer to bowl with scrambled eggs.

3.  Heat remaining oil in skillet, and add pepper, mushrooms, onions, garlic, and ginger.  Stir fry until vegetables are softened, about 3 minutes.  Add bean sprouts; cook 1 minute more.  Add broth; heat to boiling; stir in eggs and pork.

4.  Warm tortillas in microwave, about 30 seconds (I usually wet two paper towels and put the tortillas between them in the microwave), and brush hoisin sauce over centers.  Divide vegetable pork mixture among tortillas and roll up.

Source:  Cooking Light.

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