A Peek Under The Covers …

unmade-bedI was a tween spending a quiet summer afternoon over my best friend Cathy’s house. Cathy’s mother was outside gardening, and we had the house temporarily to ourselves.

Taking advantage of the lull, Cathy led me into her parents bedroom on tiptoe. Cathy had discovered something top-secret in her mother’s lingerie drawer and wanted to show me. She didn’t tell me WHAT the something was which, of course, heightened the sense of danger in our covert mission.

Cathy opened her mother’s dresser drawer, pushed aside a few articles of clothing, and carefully pulled out a thick, paperback book titled, “The Joy of Sex.” She quickly flipped open the book and let me see the simple yet explicit illustrations of a man and a woman in various positions having sex.

Standing next to Cathy, I turned beet red from embarrassment as she turned the pages to reveal more and more pictures. And, yet despite my discomfort and mortal fear of being discovered, I was strangely fascinated by the content. A number of thoughts and questions raced through my mind. Why does that man in the pictures have a beard? Does this mean Cathy’s parents (and by extension MY parents) still have sex? How exactly do people get their bodies into those positions? How can that be comfortable?

This memory surfaced yesterday as I heard that the results from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior. Researchers from Indiana University questioned almost 6,000 men and women between the ages of 14 and 94 about their sexual behaviors, patterns of condom use and the percentage of Americans participating in same-sex encounters.

One interesting “When Harry Met Sally” finding:

“Men and women also perceive each others’ level of arousal differently. Eighty-five percent of men reported that their partner experienced orgasm during their most recent sex event compared to only 64 percent of women who reported experiencing orgasm.”

If you decide to check out the findings, be advised that the link consists of a series of journal articles which are written from a scholarly viewpoint. But, if you’re like me and your curiosity exceeds your willingness to plow through lots of text, just search for the various tables to see a snapshot of the info.


  • Aleyna Says:
    12-14-2012 01:05:29

    LOL!! I was being sarcastic, I don’t plan my life that far ahead of time, and I never make lists, in aitaulcty, when an idea hits me I drop everthing and get it done (which is not always the practical thing to do) because I know tomorrow I’ll be distracted by a different idea. I really don’t need to make resolutions, I don’t spend much time debating wheteher I should do something or not, if I feel passionate enough about something, it WILL get done, whatever the cost. There’s nothing for me to quit because I’m not addicted to anything, whenever I notice in myself a pattern of behavior (good or bad) taking shape I stop abruptly and change course on the fly, not because I have a strong will but because I have a very short attention span. I have always felt that having a particular fetish and being addicted to any one drug or thing or whatever, is for the masses, of course, things are not that black & white and people have justifications and reasons for everything but I believe an artist should not be bound by addiction, it’s too restrictive and boring, ultimately it all depends on the individual mindset but personally, I’d rather be free to explore and express everything, my life and my behavior are not much different than my artwork, the only exception being the commitment I have for my kids.I didn’t say “have more sex with other people”, you can always have sex with yourself, where’s the harm in that? (besides hairy palms) I’ve been married to the same woman for 23 years and I have 2 kids, so I’m positive it will never happen, to have sex with strangers doesn’t appeal to me in the least, I have to care for the person I’m with, otherwise it doesn’t do anything for me, I tried going to a prostitute once when I was younger, that was a disaster. Sexual frustration is a very important part of my life, it fuels my anger and drive, is the engine that makes everything artistic possible, all that truncated passion and energy gets put to a good use: ART. Don’t feel bad for me, I like it that way :)

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