Comments on: Finding the Time to Say What Means the Most http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2010/04/finding-the-time-to-say-what-means-the-most/ Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 02 Aug 2011 08:46:30 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Anne http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2010/04/finding-the-time-to-say-what-means-the-most/comment-page-1/#comment-1805 Anne Fri, 16 Apr 2010 04:21:05 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=2977#comment-1805 Thanks Elaine. So I can forgo writing four heartfelt speeches while stuffing the turkey? However, any of you who have had or gone to a Bar Mitzvah can't argue at how special this family tribute is, especially at such a critical and formative time in a child's life. Thanks Elaine. So I can forgo writing four heartfelt speeches while stuffing the turkey?

However, any of you who have had or gone to a Bar Mitzvah can’t argue at how special this family tribute is, especially at such a critical and formative time in a child’s life.

]]> By: Elaine http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2010/04/finding-the-time-to-say-what-means-the-most/comment-page-1/#comment-1796 Elaine Tue, 13 Apr 2010 11:47:06 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=2977#comment-1796 I'm reading a really good book called Drive by Daniel Pink. It talks about what we THINK motivates us (traditional carrots and sticks) and what really motivates us. He shares studies that show when we work at something in order to receive a reward, our motivation and productivity are dampened. In contrast, unexpected (and often verbal!) rewards have a significant and positive impact. My take-away? It's the impromptu words of praise or acknowledgment to our kids that they remember most. I’m reading a really good book called Drive by Daniel Pink. It talks about what we THINK motivates us (traditional carrots and sticks) and what really motivates us. He shares studies that show when we work at something in order to receive a reward, our motivation and productivity are dampened. In contrast, unexpected (and often verbal!) rewards have a significant and positive impact.

My take-away? It’s the impromptu words of praise or acknowledgment to our kids that they remember most.

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