Comments on: “My Whole Life Is HAVE To” http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/my-whole-life-is-have-to/ Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 02 Aug 2011 08:46:30 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Debi http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/my-whole-life-is-have-to/comment-page-1/#comment-1349 Debi Sat, 08 Aug 2009 18:21:17 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1205#comment-1349 First of all, thank you for putting into perspective and words what many of us are thinking and feeling...And, with a wonderful sense of humor. Though I do not have children, for the past several years, I have taken care of grown-ups, primarily, my disabled brother and elderly father. My "Dad" and best friend went to heaven May 2008...My mother immediately jumped into his role and screamed, "My turn...It's only fair." My brother was in a car accident Monday...Everytime I am holding one ball, my ball, and contemplating ME time, someone throws his or her ball at me!..Maybe, one day I won't catch it. :) First of all, thank you for putting into perspective and words what many of us are thinking and feeling…And, with a wonderful sense of humor.
Though I do not have children, for the past several years, I have taken care of grown-ups, primarily, my disabled brother and elderly father. My “Dad” and best friend went to heaven May 2008…My mother immediately jumped into his role and screamed, “My turn…It’s only fair.” My brother was in a car accident Monday…Everytime I am holding one ball, my ball, and contemplating ME time, someone throws his or her ball at me!..Maybe, one day I won’t catch it. :)

]]> By: Cindy L http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/my-whole-life-is-have-to/comment-page-1/#comment-1348 Cindy L Sat, 08 Aug 2009 14:07:00 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1205#comment-1348 I remember feeling like that when my son was young and still at home ... seems like I lived my life around the school calendar and my writing deadlines and house chores. In the good moments, I did enjoy the busyness, too, as you noted in your post. In retrospect, I miss all that "structure" sometimes, though caring for elderly parents has now replaced my "Mom duty" rather quickly. So DO grab those free moments when you can, and put some leisure time in ink on your calendar. I remember feeling like that when my son was young and still at home … seems like I lived my life around the school calendar and my writing deadlines and house chores. In the good moments, I did enjoy the busyness, too, as you noted in your post.

In retrospect, I miss all that “structure” sometimes, though caring for elderly parents has now replaced my “Mom duty” rather quickly. So DO grab those free moments when you can, and put some leisure time in ink on your calendar.

]]> By: Kathleen http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/my-whole-life-is-have-to/comment-page-1/#comment-1344 Kathleen Thu, 06 Aug 2009 20:30:11 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1205#comment-1344 Oh, Elaine, I can so totally relate. I'm sitting in the Vegas airport now after a heavenly four-day vacation with my husband. And the best part of said vacation? Absolutely no responsibilities and I didn't have to take care of anyone but myself. I do love family vacations, but, ahhhh, this has been relaxing. I am not looking forward to returning to reality. Oh, Elaine, I can so totally relate. I’m sitting in the Vegas airport now after a heavenly four-day vacation with my husband. And the best part of said vacation? Absolutely no responsibilities and I didn’t have to take care of anyone but myself. I do love family vacations, but, ahhhh, this has been relaxing. I am not looking forward to returning to reality.

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