Comments on: Good Fences Make Good Neighbors: Part III http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/ Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 02 Aug 2011 08:46:30 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Maya http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1427 Maya Wed, 02 Sep 2009 16:01:18 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1427 Elaine--A very excellent three part series! I admire your diplomacy and patience. I've always been told that you attract more bees with honey than with vinegar, but I can't always say I've heeded that advice. Still, glad that they seemed responsive in your face-to-face meeting. Maybe the other lesson learned is that more gets accomplished in person than by email. Why not walk over, knock on their door and hand them the name of the tree removal company and set a deadline together to have the issue resolved? I'll refrain from making any jokes about "barking up the wrong tree" or extending an olive "branch" but it really is tempting! Elaine–A very excellent three part series! I admire your diplomacy and patience. I’ve always been told that you attract more bees with honey than with vinegar, but I can’t always say I’ve heeded that advice. Still, glad that they seemed responsive in your face-to-face meeting. Maybe the other lesson learned is that more gets accomplished in person than by email. Why not walk over, knock on their door and hand them the name of the tree removal company and set a deadline together to have the issue resolved? I’ll refrain from making any jokes about “barking up the wrong tree” or extending an olive “branch” but it really is tempting!

]]> By: Elaine http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1422 Elaine Tue, 01 Sep 2009 11:17:36 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1422 Thanks, all! Your reactions to my neighborly dilemma have helped fuel my resolve. Despite the encouraging chat, it's clear that I can't simply sit back and wait for it to happen. After one week: no word ack from Sally or Bob. I will follow up to say how much I enjoyed our chat (good idea, ann!) and pass along the name of another tree company that was recommended to me. I've also decided that I will schedule the tree work for my yard (which doesn't include the scary poplar tree) for mid-September ... perhaps that timeline will jump start things. Thanks, all! Your reactions to my neighborly dilemma have helped fuel my resolve. Despite the encouraging chat, it’s clear that I can’t simply sit back and wait for it to happen.

After one week: no word ack from Sally or Bob. I will follow up to say how much I enjoyed our chat (good idea, ann!) and pass along the name of another tree company that was recommended to me. I’ve also decided that I will schedule the tree work for my yard (which doesn’t include the scary poplar tree) for mid-September … perhaps that timeline will jump start things.

]]> By: Sharon http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1411 Sharon Sat, 29 Aug 2009 03:52:21 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1411 Kudos all around- you all made the effort to find a solution. You're on the right track. Let us know how things progress. Kudos all around- you all made the effort to find a solution. You’re on the right track. Let us know how things progress.

]]> By: Cindy H http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1410 Cindy H Sat, 29 Aug 2009 01:02:26 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1410 Elaine, I think you two neighbors had a very productive meeting. I think it's well worth exploring different companies for different prices. We had a big tree removed in our backyard this summer and the estimates were very divergent. We went with the middle bid, after checking out the company's references, insurance, and reputation from the BBB. Good luck! Elaine, I think you two neighbors had a very productive meeting. I think it’s well worth exploring different companies for different prices. We had a big tree removed in our backyard this summer and the estimates were very divergent. We went with the middle bid, after checking out the company’s references, insurance, and reputation from the BBB.

Good luck!

]]> By: Stacy http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1408 Stacy Thu, 27 Aug 2009 23:44:58 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1408 Ann, what city are you in? I'll be looking for you! LOL! Ann, what city are you in? I’ll be looking for you! LOL!

]]> By: shane http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1407 shane Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:13:52 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1407 Phew! I loved the updates and am so glad that it's moving in the right direction. Nice work, Elaine! Phew! I loved the updates and am so glad that it’s moving in the right direction. Nice work, Elaine!

]]> By: ann http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1406 ann Thu, 27 Aug 2009 13:46:33 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1406 maybe i am unrealistic but i felt so encouraged to read this. elaine, you really handled it so well despite your fears of a less-than-optimal outcome. i hope all will work out and that your neighbors and you and your spouse will be, well, "neighborly" if not friends. i suggest a friendly follow up (over the fence, in an email?) where you say how glad you were to have them over, get to know them better and that you wre so pleased that all of you had a reasonable follow-up plan. saying this, especially on paper, will confirm (and document) your discussion and agreement. keep friendly and do stay on top of things. and, stacy, if it turns out that elaine was bamboozled i will inflate my portable soapbox and stand on a prominent corner of my city and proclaim myself as a trusting idiot. ann maybe i am unrealistic but i felt so encouraged to read this. elaine, you really handled it so well despite your fears of a less-than-optimal outcome.

i hope all will work out and that your neighbors and you and your spouse will be, well, “neighborly” if not friends.

i suggest a friendly follow up (over the fence, in an email?) where you say how glad you were to have them over, get to know them better and that you wre so pleased that all of you had a reasonable follow-up plan. saying this, especially on paper, will confirm (and document) your discussion and agreement.

keep friendly and do stay on top of things. and, stacy, if it turns out that elaine was bamboozled i will inflate my portable soapbox and stand on a prominent corner of my city and proclaim myself as a trusting idiot.

ann

]]> By: Cindy L http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1405 Cindy L Thu, 27 Aug 2009 13:14:04 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1405 Hooray! Glad it is working out, and hope it continues on this path. What you've written here is a testimony to the importance of face-to-face communication. We've lost that art in the age of text-messaging, e-mail, etc. Hooray! Glad it is working out, and hope it continues on this path. What you’ve written here is a testimony to the importance of face-to-face communication. We’ve lost that art in the age of text-messaging, e-mail, etc.

]]> By: Stacy http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1404 Stacy Thu, 27 Aug 2009 12:14:41 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1404 I think you've been bamboozled by your neighbors! I think you’ve been bamboozled by your neighbors!

]]> By: Kathleen http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/2009/08/good-fences-make-good-neighbors-part-iii/comment-page-1/#comment-1403 Kathleen Thu, 27 Aug 2009 11:55:39 +0000 http://wisewomencoffeechat.com/?p=1389#comment-1403 So glad it all worked out well for you! Now keep on top of them and make sure they actually DO something about the tree. So glad it all worked out well for you! Now keep on top of them and make sure they actually DO something about the tree.

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